Friends and followers on Facebook and Twitter may have noticed over the past few weeks that I've mentioned the launch of a new book which has just released. I have appreciated being on the Launch team of Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent's Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN
Motivate Your Child is filled with concrete examples and advice to help us "Parent from the heart." What that means in plain terms is learning (or sometimes relearning/refreshing) how to guide our children into maturity, growing their character and integrity with internal motivation rather than external motivation.
I'm sure many of us have fallen prey to using external motivation (Reward or punishment) at one time or another. While it is sometimes the easiest or quickest method to use, as a consistent method of discipling our children, it's effects are only as lasting as the reward or punishment exist (please note, discipling = teaching vs the common misuse of discipline = punishment). Far better to gently and patiently teach our children to recognize what is right and wrong, and how to make choices that show integrity.
Moral Development which covers strategies to grow that internal moral compass of integrity, compassion, and initiative.
Spiritual Development speaks to the foundations of faith in parenting, ideas to help you live out your faith on a daily basis, where your children see you, so that it becomes as natural for them to learn to follow God as it is to learn to ride a bike, go for hikes, bake cookies, and do anything else that you do on a regular basis.
I especially appreciated the pictures drawn with words of what honor looks like, and how to encourage it, what compassion is, and how to show it, and again, what correction really is~ a gift to help them learn from their mistakes instead of continuing in them.
I would like to thank Dr. Scott and Joanne Miller for taking the time to put their actions and thoughts into words, to help our generation with #heartparenting.